Written by: Nikki Laureano
“But the fruit of the Spirit is…faithfulness…” Galatians 5:22 NIV
When my husband and I got married, we truly had no idea what we were doing. Neither one of us was walking with the Lord at the time, and there was a part of me that feared I was committing to something I wouldn’t be able to honor.
The day we got married, I was full of anxiety and terror for what our future held. If you ask my husband, he will tell you that I didn’t even look him in the eyes when we recited our vows and said, “we do.”
Trust me when I say that admitting this about my wedding day is not something I am proud of. However, God has been faithful to redeem my marriage as I put my trust fully in Him. And through it all, my own faithfulness has grown in my marriage and walk with the Lord.
“Your unfailing love, O Lord, is as vast as the heavens; your faithfulness reached beyond the clouds.” Psalm 36:5 NLT
I used to operate under the pretense that faithfulness was simply being a submissive servant to a God who demanded my obedience. But after growing an intimate relationship with God, He has shown me that faithfulness is so much more than that.
In October 2016, I experienced the Holy Spirit in a powerful way and afterward, my life changed radically. I’m pretty positive I freaked my husband out. He was definitely supportive of my personal and spiritual growth, but he was not ready to jump on the Jesus bandwagon.
At first, I tried to force feed him everything I was learning about God. I’d often ask myself why my husband didn’t have a meaningful relationship with God.
But after seeking wise council, I realized that, as a wife, I’m not responsible for the outcome of my husband’s faith. My responsibility as a Christian wife is to love and remain faithful to my husband while loving and putting my trust in our Creator. And it is this growing faithfulness to God and my husband that completely changed the trajectory of our marriage.
Recently, my husband humored me by attending a retreat. Before he left, he told me that he needed to experience God during the retreat, or he would not attend church again.
This statement consumed me for four days, but later I realized that my husband was finally crying out to God to reveal Himself. And you know what they say: “when the student is ready, the teacher appears.”
I won’t share my husband’s testimony here, but I will say that God was faithful to my husband’s plea and to my prayers. He definitely showed up and showed off for my husband during the retreat. And when my husband came home, our marriage felt brand-new, and I fell in love with my husband in a whole new way.
Through this experience, God has shown me that faithfulness from the Spirit is so much more than my obedience to Him. It is a fruit that takes root and grows within me and therefore changes how I react to the environment around me, including my marriage.
“Let the Spirit change your way of thinking and make you into a new person. You were created to be like God, and so you must please him and be truly holy.” Ephesians 4:23-24 CEV
Before this, my husband and I would have never admitted that our marriage was falling apart, but now we are both excited that we share this testimony together. I am so grateful that, together, we are living a life characterized by faith.
Our faithfulness is a direct result of God’s work within us and our marriage. As we both strive to live a faith-filled life, we look to our Creator who is the emulation of perfect faithfulness and love.
God desires and admires our faithfulness, and He wants to enrich our lives as we show Him we can be entrusted with more responsibility and blessings. As children of the God who exemplifies unfailing love, I pray that we will take every opportunity to use our abilities for His glory, trust in His promises, and watch faithfulness flourish in new ways throughout our lives!
“The master was full of praise. ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so now I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!” Matthew 25:21 NLT
Invitation to Reflect:
- What areas of your life have you been faithful to God? What areas have you not been?
- What, if anything, blocks you from being faithful towards God or others?
This week, I want to encourage you to express your faithfulness in diverse ways. Think of all the ways God is faithful to you in the specifics of your life. Thank Him and start noticing the spiritual fruits that flourish throughout your week!